I am very fortunate that my husband enjoys wearing his wedding band. I know that many men prefer to not wear rings and thus it’s common that they decide to leave their bands at home except for special occasions. At our wedding his mom kept saying “I’ve waited 52 years for this day!”. I think that is perhaps the same reason he wears it. He waited a long time to get married and to have the privilege of wearing a band. For men who don’t wear bands, there are many reasons. This is just the reason that he wears his.
Last week, I got him a “spare” in the chance that his gold band may be difficult to wear when lifting heavy machinery or doing something active. He had complained once that it cut him and that he’s forming a calous below the band, but he still continued to wear it. I got him a version that’s made out of silicone and he loves it. He loves knowing that if he’s going to be doing something difficult with his hands one day, he has an option. Again, I am grateful that wearing his band is something that he highly prioritizes because it’s mine too.
This idea made me also think a lot about how women my age will often leave their engagement rings at home and wear their bands only on a daily basis. It made me stop when I went to get a custom band to match my engagement ring before the wedding. If I were to join that “band-only” club, it may look funny to have a curved band rather than one that goes straight across.
I took votes from my girlfriends and then looked at my ring. The stone wasn’t so highly elevated that it would get caught often and I too had waited a long time to get it (39 years). I decided to continue wearing the engagement ring after we were married and I’m very happy about it. I don’t judge those who wear only the band or those who don’t wear anything at all, but for my husband and I, we are very excited to have them.